真正的自律，是为自己的人生负责
<section data-role="paragraph" style="box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;" data-mpa-powered-by="yiban.io"><p style="text-align:center;vertical-align:inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><font size="3"><br></font></p><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="94886" data-width="96%" style="box-sizing:border-box;max-width: 96% !important;margin-left: auto;margin-right: auto;width: 96%;flex: 0 0 96%;"><section style="box-sizing:border-box;max-width: 100% !important;width: 100%;" data-width="100%"><section style="background:#eeeeee;"><section data-autoskip="1" style="letter-spacing: 1.5px; line-height: 1.75em; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); padding: 1em; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="2">导语：自律，是为自己的人生负责。那么如何做到自律？本文与大家探讨。</font></section></section><section style="text-align: right;margin-top: -18px;margin-right:1em;"><section style="box-sizing:border-box;width: 4em;height:4px;background: #1f497d;display: inline-block;overflow: hidden;"><font 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background-color: rgb(31, 73, 125); visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important; overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><font size="1"> 本期音频由metamaker支持 | 今日文章主题：管理干货</font></span></p><p style="text-align:center;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><font size="3"><br></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3">经常有人问我：“Cherry，你每天五点多就起床，你是怎么做到自律的？自律是不是很痛苦？”</font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></p><p style="margin: 0px 10px 0em;padding: 0px;clear: both;min-height: 1em;max-width: 100%;text-align: center;vertical-align: inherit;line-height: 1.75em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;max-width: 100%;height: auto !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;vertical-align: inherit;"><font size="3"><img src="https://www.huamaoshuo.com/forum.php?mod=image&aid=10625&size=300x300&key=3216b727fd6f04c8&type=fixnone" border="0" style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;max-width: 100%;height: auto !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;vertical-align: inherit;;max-width:677px;" aid="attachimg_10625" alt=""></font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 10px 0em;padding: 0px;clear: both;min-height: 1em;max-width: 100%;text-align: center;vertical-align: inherit;line-height: 1.75em;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;max-width: 100%;height: auto !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;vertical-align: inherit;"><font size="3"><br></font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 10px;padding: 0px;clear: both;min-height: 1em;max-width: 100%;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;box-sizing: border-box !important;text-align: center;vertical-align: inherit;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;max-width: 100%;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(31, 73, 125); overflow-wrap: break-word !important; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><font size="3">自律不痛苦，痛苦的是假装自律</font></span></strong></span></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3">其实自律不痛苦，我们之所以会觉得自律痛苦，是因为我们习惯于将自己短期做某事的痛苦作为假设，认为他人也和我们一样。</font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3">比如，我们经常不锻炼，突然锻炼一次，身体超过了负荷，非常难受。就认为长期锻炼，肯定每天都是这样，是一种折磨。</font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3">比如从来不早起，突然早起一次，就感觉没睡醒，哈欠连天，从而认为早起都会这样。</font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3">你看，人们很容易会根据个人经验，从而得出自律很痛苦的结论。</font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3">其实不然，对于那些长期坚持的人，他们并不觉得痛苦。长期锻炼的人，已经享受到了健身的馈赠，身体机能越来越好，体力越来越充沛，锻炼对他们来说，反而是一件非常舒服的事。</font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3">他们已经成为了一种习惯，已经得到了自律带来的回报。</font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><strong><font size="3">自律不痛苦，痛苦的是假装自律。</font></strong></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3">怎么说？</font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3">比如很多人给自己定了一个目标，要看多少本书，担心自己坚持不下去，然后加入了一个打卡群，每天打卡。</font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3">事实上，他根本不喜欢看书，长期强迫自己看，强迫自己做不喜欢的事，这就非常痛苦了。</font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3">在康德的哲学中，康德不主张“他律性”，因为这意味着强迫。</font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><strong><font size="3">康德认为自律是为了自由，自由是一种“自发性”，是由人自愿的动机所决定的。</font></strong></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><strong><font size="3">因此，尽量不要陷入他律之中，强迫自己做不愿意做的事。</font></strong></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3">而是应该发挥自己的自由精神，从而做自我的主宰。</font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><span style="color: rgb(31, 73, 125);"><strong><font size="3">从本质上来看，自律，也是为自己的人生负责。</font></strong></span></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br></font></p><p style="text-align: center; margin: 0px 10px 0em; padding: 0px; clear: both; min-height: 1em; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51);" helvetica="" neue",="" "pingfang="" sc",="" "hiragino="" sans="" gb",="" "microsoft="" yahei="" ui",="" yahei",="" arial,="" sans-serif;="" text-align:="" center;="" caret-color:="" rgba(0,="" 0,="" 0);="" vertical-align:="" inherit;="" line-height:="" 1.75em;="" overflow-wrap:="" break-word="" !important;="" box-sizing:="" border-box="" !important;"=""><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;max-width: 100%;height: auto 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box-sizing: border-box !important;"><font size="3">“计划者”和“行动者”总是相互影响</font></span></strong></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 10px; padding: 0px; clear: both; min-height: 1em; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, " helvetica="" neue",="" "pingfang="" sc",="" "hiragino="" sans="" gb",="" "microsoft="" yahei="" ui",="" yahei",="" arial,="" sans-serif;="" caret-color:="" rgba(0,="" 0,="" 0);="" text-align:="" center;="" vertical-align:="" inherit;="" line-height:="" 1.75em;="" overflow-wrap:="" break-word="" !important;="" box-sizing:="" border-box="" !important;"=""><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow-wrap: break-word !important; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;max-width: 100%;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;max-width: 100%;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;box-sizing: border-box !important;color: rgb(31, 73, 125);"><font size="3"><br></font></span></strong></span></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3">关于自律，理查德·泰勒也有自己的观点。</font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3">在《“错误”的行为》一书中，作者认为，自律是非常重要的。</font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3">外部世界越来越复杂，而作为个体无法左右。因此，人的安全感大部分来自于自律，外部环境无法左右，但我们仍然具备锚定自身生活的权力。</font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3">按照理查德·泰勒的观点，我们有两个自我。</font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><strong><font size="3">一个是前瞻性的“计划者”，关心未来并且有很好的打算，有长期主义的心态。</font></strong></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3">正如人类简史中所说，猴子从来不会因为明天能得到2根香蕉而放弃目前的1根，但人可以。</font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3">之所以能做到，就是因为“计划者”在起作用。</font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3">与计划者相对应的则是“行动者”。</font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><strong><font size="3">“行动者”只活在当下，就想要及时满足。</font></strong></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3">在我看来，两个自我其实不一定是在博弈。我认为它们就像是两个“小人”，他们在相互影响。</font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3">因此，想要做到自律，我们可以利用身体里的“计划者”，去引导“行动者”。<br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><strong><span style="color: rgb(31, 73, 125);"><font size="3">行动者是当下，而计划者是长期主义。当下和长期主义并不冲突，可以用计划者来指导行动者，做一些符合长期主义的事情。</font></span></strong></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3">这样，反而让我们更自律，成为更好的人，拥有更美好的人生。</font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></p><p style="text-align: center; margin: 0px 10px 0em; padding: 0px; clear: both; min-height: 1em; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51);" helvetica="" neue",="" "pingfang="" sc",="" "hiragino="" sans="" gb",="" "microsoft="" yahei="" ui",="" yahei",="" arial,="" sans-serif;="" text-align:="" center;="" vertical-align:="" inherit;="" line-height:="" 1.75em;="" overflow-wrap:="" break-word="" !important;="" box-sizing:="" border-box="" !important;"=""><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;margin: 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0px;max-width: 100%;height: auto !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;vertical-align: inherit;"><font size="3"><br></font></span></p><p style="text-align: center; margin: 0px 10px; padding: 0px; clear: both; min-height: 1em; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51);" helvetica="" neue",="" "pingfang="" sc",="" "hiragino="" sans="" gb",="" "microsoft="" yahei="" ui",="" yahei",="" arial,="" sans-serif;="" text-align:="" center;="" vertical-align:="" inherit;="" line-height:="" 1.75em;="" overflow-wrap:="" break-word="" !important;="" box-sizing:="" border-box="" !important;"=""><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(31, 73, 125); overflow-wrap: break-word !important; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;max-width: 100%;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;box-sizing: border-box !important;"><font size="3">影响行动者的3个方法</font></strong></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 10px; padding: 0px; clear: both; min-height: 1em; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, " helvetica="" neue",="" "pingfang="" sc",="" "hiragino="" sans="" gb",="" "microsoft="" yahei="" ui",="" yahei",="" arial,="" sans-serif;="" text-align:="" center;="" vertical-align:="" inherit;="" line-height:="" 1.75em;="" overflow-wrap:="" break-word="" !important;="" box-sizing:="" border-box="" !important;"=""><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(31, 73, 125); overflow-wrap: break-word !important; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;max-width: 100%;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;box-sizing: border-box !important;"><font size="3"><br></font></strong></span></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3">行动者是即时满足的，那么该如何克服这一弱点。如何用“计划者”影响“行动者”？</font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3">以下是我总结的三个方法，分享给大家。</font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><strong><span style="color: rgb(31, 73, 125);"><font size="3">1.为自己树立一个长期的目标</font></span></strong></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3">自律，是为自己的人生负责。那么我们也要思考一下自己要成为什么样的人，过什么样的人生，这正是上面提到的“两根香蕉”。<br></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></p><p draggable="true" style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3">洛克菲勒在他在19岁时，每晚临睡前都会告诉自己：我要成为克利夫兰最大的炼油商。</font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3">这个欲望强烈到了如果不能实现，会让他倍感痛苦，如果不积极行动，他就会坐立难安。而一旦开始工作，就会非常振奋。</font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3">这样的信念，驱动着洛克菲勒一步步往前，你看，此时的行动者反而成为了洛克菲勒达到目标的最大助力。</font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3">那么，你想要一个什么样的人生？</font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><strong><span style="color: rgb(31, 73, 125);"><font size="3">2.学会承诺对方</font></span></strong></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3">在实现目标的过程中，行动者时不时会“耍小脾气”，比如当你想要工作的时候，有一个小人告诉你，现在就去打球。</font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3">那么你就可以让“计划者”告诉“行动者”，先做完这一点工作，然后出去打球，到时候作为奖励，打球的时间可以长一些。</font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><strong><font size="3">让计划者和行动者达成承诺一致，这样行动者反而不关注打球了，行动者听从计划者的安排，迅速沉浸在工作当中，并且让你充满激情。<br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></strong></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><strong><span style="color: rgb(31, 73, 125);"><font size="3">3.利用好TDL</font></span></strong></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3">如果人不规划时间，就很容易被“行动者”打乱，比如一会儿看看手机，一会儿看看视频，刷刷网页，或者就像上面提到的，刚准备工作，结果注意力又被篮球拉走了。</font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3">没有计划，容易陷入焦虑，而焦虑的反面是具体。因此“计划者”可以规划好时间，集中精力做那些最重要的事情。</font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3">管理工坊中教给学员的TDL这一工具，可以帮助到我们。</font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3">具体该怎么写，在管理工坊中都有详细的讲解，而且还有大量的训练，让你用好它。</font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3">TDL能帮助你规划时间，合理地做事。我每一天都写TDL，解决那些最重要的事。</font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><strong><font size="3">TDL有三个核心点：通盘思考、要事当先、想不透的事情持续想。</font></strong></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3">正如俗话“将军赶路，不追小兔”，通过TDL，能帮助你规划出最重要的事情，并且让行动者迅速投身于这些重要的事情中。</font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br style="max-inline-size: 100%;margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;outline: none 0px !important;"></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3">最后总结一下，自律并不痛苦，痛苦的是他律。真正的自律，是为自己的人生负责。</font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3"><br></font></p><p style="text-align: justify;vertical-align: inherit;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;line-height: 1.75em;box-shadow: none;margin-bottom: 0px;"><font size="3">如何做到自律？<strong><span style="color: rgb(31, 73, 125);">就是要用身体的“计划者”去影响“行动者”，有三个方法：树立目标，找到真正的内驱力；学会承诺对方，达成一致；写TDL，规划时间。</span></strong></font></p><p style="vertical-align:inherit;"><br></p></section><font color="#c0c0c0" size="1">转载声明：本文转载自「张丽俊」，搜索「zhanglijunCherry」即可关注，[阅读原文]。点击右上角关注获取更多资讯！</font><font size="3"><br></font>花猫写作网拥有一帮喜欢读书、喜欢写作、喜欢分享传播正能量的朋友每天与你一起学习成长，在这里你不仅仅是收获知识。转载请联系花猫说（id:hmshuyouquan）进行授权转载。
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