99%的人看不见自己，一生在做社会的傀儡
<section label="Edit by 135editor.com" style=""><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com" style=""><section data-role="paragraph" style=""><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">绝大多数人的眼里没有光。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">即使有，也是精神被灌醉后的虚妄之光，在生存斗争中滋生出了狡诈之光，被教育后的仇恨之光；</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">因为看不到自己而产生的空洞迷茫之光。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><strong><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">真正的生命之光，早就熄灭了。</font></span></strong></p><p style="text-align: center; margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><strong><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;width:auto;"><font size="3"><img src="https://www.huamaoshuo.com/forum.php?mod=image&aid=9782&size=300x300&key=01da80da223f7e28&type=fixnone" border="0" style="width:auto;;max-width:677px;" aid="attachimg_9782" alt=""></font></span></span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">去年冬天我在老家，和一位旧友喝茶，他在单位工作多年。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">他说：<span style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;">“</span>南方人创业？那不是自己找罪受？看我现在的工作多好，上班喝喝茶，工作也不累，下午还能早下班接孩子。晚上约朋友喝顿酒。生活多舒坦。人要学会享福。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">干嘛啊那是？放着铁饭碗不要，出去折腾？以为自己不是普通人？连这点都想不开，人啊，要学会享福。<span style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;">”</span></font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><font size="3"><br></font></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">几天后我到深圳，去见了另外一位朋友，欧洲留学回来，四十岁上下，初创公司三年。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">我是在一家废弃的厂房里找到他。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">炎热，没有空调，吹着两台风扇，他正和几位技术员伏案检查图纸。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">看我进来，欢快的要求我坐，喝茶。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">一阵生命的活泼气息迎面而来。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">首先是他的眼神。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><strong><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">谁都会笑，但眼神能出卖一个人的心境。</font></span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">我在老家半年，已经没有见到这么明亮、透彻、快乐的眼神了。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">按说他没有国家编制，白手起家，生存风险如影随形。可是他眼神里透露出的自由，快乐，却告诉我他当下的心境如此释放。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">再回头想想，老家那位<span style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;">“</span>享福论<span style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;">”</span>的旧友，从来没有这种眼神，他的微笑总是礼貌性的笑容，他的眼神永远是暗淡、浑浊的。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><strong><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">有人伺候着身体，有人伺候着灵魂。</font></span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">但幸福是什么，<strong>幸福是一种心理感受，而不是拥有的物品清单。</strong></font></span></p><p style="text-align: center; margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); min-height: 14px; line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: Baskerville;"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;width:auto;"><font size="3"><img src="https://www.huamaoshuo.com/forum.php?mod=image&aid=9783&size=300x300&key=e5b11a0989ccca98&type=fixnone" border="0" style="width:auto;;max-width:677px;" aid="attachimg_9783" alt=""></font></span></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><strong><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">人所有的痛苦，焦虑、恐慌全部都来自看不到自己。</font></span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">因为无法内观、自省、习惯于将思想交给外界价值体系、社会规则；而肉身，只能只这副<strong>精神傀儡的傀儡</strong>。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">每个人都有自我意识，但人很容易拥有<strong>虚假</strong>的<strong>自我意识</strong>而<strong>不自知</strong>，你所知道的你自己，其实根本不是你自己。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); min-height: 14px; line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: Baskerville;"><font size="3"><br></font></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">尤其在中国人的眼里，一切人，都是关系、身份、地位、年龄、辈分，唯独不是<span style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;">“</span>人<span style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;">”</span>。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">而这些关系、身份、地位、年龄、辈分，都是以<span style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;">“</span>我<span style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;">”</span>为中心定义的。和我无关系的就是<span style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;">“</span>无<span style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;">”</span>。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><font size="3"><strong><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;">中国人的眼里没有<span style="font-weight: normal; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;">“</span>生命<span style="font-weight: normal; font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;">”</span>。</span></strong><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;">更看不到作为<span style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;">“</span>人<span style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;">”</span>自来就有的这份生命的意义。</span></font></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); min-height: 14px; line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: Baskerville;"><font size="3"><br></font></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">如果你问一个中国人，<strong>你是谁？</strong></font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3"><span style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;">99.9%</span>的人会回答说，他是一个大夫，他是一个学生。<strong><span style="color: rgb(38, 38, 38);"><em>（这是社会身份，不是他。）</em></span></strong><span style="color: rgb(38, 38, 38);"></span></font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><font size="3"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;">有人说他是一个母亲，他是一个儿子</span><strong><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><span style="color: rgb(38, 38, 38);"><em>（这是辈分，不是他）</em></span></span><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;">。</span></strong><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"></span></font></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><font size="3"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;">有人会说他是一个男人，或者女人。</span><strong><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><span style="color: rgb(38, 38, 38);"><em>（这是社会性别，或者生理性别，也不是他） </em></span></span></strong><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><span style="color: rgb(38, 38, 38);"></span></span></font></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><font size="3"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;">有人会说他是王富贵，她是陈漫香。</span><strong><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><span style="color: rgb(38, 38, 38);"><em>（这是他的名字，一个符号而已。）</em></span></span></strong><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><span style="color: rgb(38, 38, 38);"></span></span></font></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><font size="3"><br></font></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">每个人都能看到他人的身份、地位、年龄、辈分，也能看到自己的这些特征，<strong>唯独看不见人</strong>。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><font size="3"><br></font></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><font size="3"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"></span></font></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><font size="3"><strong><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;">人们要么攀比，要么不比</span></strong><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;">。</span></font></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">但是不比的人也喜欢说一句：<span style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;">“</span>我们比上不足比下有余，现在的水平就行啦。<span style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal;">”</span></font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">如果真的意识到自己的事情与他人无关，就一定会尽力把自己想做的事情，想达到的状态实现了，而不是用这套说辞自我安慰了。</font></span></p><p style="text-align: center; margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); min-height: 14px; line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: Baskerville;"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;width:auto;"><font size="3"><img src="https://www.huamaoshuo.com/forum.php?mod=image&aid=9784&size=300x300&key=d692fa6e5564bc16&type=fixnone" border="0" style="width:auto;;max-width:677px;" aid="attachimg_9784" alt=""></font></span></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">对人的所有社会定义，目的是使每个人，都能<strong>根据定义</strong>自觉<strong>遵守</strong>相关的行为<strong>规则</strong>，以利于社会良好运行。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">因为对一个人有了<strong>定义</strong>，社会便会对他有<strong>期待</strong>，也就有了行为<strong>约束</strong>。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">如何约束一个人？<strong>规矩</strong>。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">规矩的表现形式如何？</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">传统社会靠风俗观念，社会舆论。现代社会靠法律。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em;"><strong><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">规矩的落脚点在哪？在社会对人的定义。</font></span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); min-height: 14px; line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: Baskerville;"><font size="3"><br></font></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">这些能约束人的规矩，让人在刚出生的第一天，就彻底浸淫其中。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">以至于，人们以为观念是自己自愿的，天经地义的，<strong>不加质疑</strong>的。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><font size="3"><br></font></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">这些观念是怎么来的？</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">这些不是生活经验，而是<strong>被故意灌输</strong>后，底层社会人们口口相传，<strong>无从分辨真假</strong>的、<strong>无需分析辩证</strong>的简单观念。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">这是一条<strong>思维捷径</strong>。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">类似的悄悄植入人们思维力的观念还有很多。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">人们往往习惯于依据观念，而不是对事实的洞察，分析后做决定。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">又如何能做出正确的事情，突破眼前的困境？</font></span></p><p style="text-align: center; margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;width:auto;"><font size="3"><img src="https://www.huamaoshuo.com/forum.php?mod=image&aid=9785&size=300x300&key=97bc008b58fc902e&type=fixnone" border="0" style="width:auto;;max-width:677px;" aid="attachimg_9785" alt=""></font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">人能一眼发现的规矩如法律，制度，行为规则。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">最难发现的，隐藏的最深的是社会舆论推崇的价值观、风俗观念，以及<strong>你</strong>由此<strong>自发产生</strong>的<strong>人生目标</strong>。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">这三十年，人们一窝蜂去追求的人生目标，有过几次变化，全部符合社会发展需求。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><font size="3"><br></font></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">第一种是，人的一生要以<strong>成功</strong>和<strong>失败</strong>这两个指标来评价。成功意味着有名有利有官职，失败意味着没混出来，一切平庸。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">第二种是，<strong>匠人精神</strong>，一生只做一件事，做到极致。不能三心二意，不然就是自毁前程。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">社会中的绝大多数人，都在依循着这些标准去追求。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">社会上绝对不会推崇这样一种价值观，让人可以完全根据自己的意愿去活着。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">想成功就成功，不想成功就不成功。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); min-height: 14px; line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: Baskerville;"><font size="3"><br></font></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><font size="3"><strong><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;">单位</span></strong><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;">里，<strong>设置</strong>了职称和职位，荣誉和奖状，告诉人们实现的<strong>路径</strong>，并教育你这是一条你<strong>应该</strong>走的路。</span></font></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">很多人穷其一生都在走别人设定好的这条路，却没去想想为什么自己的一生就<strong>被</strong>这样<strong>塑造</strong>了。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><font size="3"><strong><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;">社会</span></strong><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;">中，<strong>设置</strong>了拿学位、结婚、生子、买房、买车、换房子、换车。</span></font></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">所有人的人生发展路径都像一台流水线上设置的<strong>统一模式</strong>。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><font size="3"><br></font></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">很少人会质疑这一套程序，却有很多人都在比谁的房子大，谁的车子贵，谁的娃多。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">都在被别人划的这个圈里循规蹈矩的起舞，还在互相<strong>比较谁舞的更好。</strong></font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><strong><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">永远看不到画圈的人，在高处看着这一切。</font></span></strong></p><p style="text-align: center; margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); min-height: 14px; line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: Baskerville;"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;width:auto;"><font size="3"><img src="https://www.huamaoshuo.com/forum.php?mod=image&aid=9786&size=300x300&key=2b69ef8db88bf224&type=fixnone" border="0" style="width:auto;;max-width:677px;" aid="attachimg_9786" alt=""></font></span></span></p><p style="text-align: center; margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><strong><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">再问自己一次，你是谁？</font></span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">如果你心中泛起的仍然是身份、性别、辈分、年龄、社会关系。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">说明你已经被看不见的社会镣铐牢牢锁住了。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">你困在了无形的<strong>观念玻璃牢笼</strong>里。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">这些风俗习惯、社会规则、价值观念、舆论压力、再加上暴力机关、给人布下天罗地网。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">所谓<strong>天下英才入我瓮中、一辈子都耗在这个游戏里。</strong></font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><font size="3"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"></span></font></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); min-height: 14px; line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: Baskerville;"><font size="3"><br></font></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><font size="3"><strong><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;">你到底是谁？</span></strong><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"></span></font></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">你是一个地球上的生命，有自己的<strong>头脑</strong>和<strong>自由</strong>行走的躯体。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">你有血脉流动，有<strong>感知</strong>，能<strong>感受</strong>到地球上的一切。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><font size="3"><br></font></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">其次你才是个人。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">你不同于植物，根扎在土壤中，不能移动。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">你也不同于动物，他们无法借助人类世界的<strong>精神文明成果</strong>和<strong>物质文明成果</strong>，来丰富自己的感受。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); min-height: 14px; line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: Baskerville;"><font size="3"><span style="text-indent: 0em; -webkit-text-stroke-width: initial; font-family: PingFangSC-Light;">其实你才是男人女人，蒙古人种还是高加索人种，但这就已然有了<strong>社会属性</strong>，更别提国籍和社会职业了。</span><br></font></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); min-height: 14px; line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: Baskerville;"><font size="3"><br></font></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">看到自己<strong>原初</strong>的生命、本来<strong>自如</strong>的样子。才会看到所谓社会规则，在一个生命面前，如此<strong>狭隘局促</strong>。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">当一个人真正的看到自己，就能找回生命本来就有的<strong>爱、真实、悲悯</strong>、以及对<strong>自由</strong>的渴望。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">一个社会规则的傀儡，才算是找回了自己的灵魂。</font></span></p><p style="text-align: center; margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); min-height: 14px; line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: Baskerville;"><font size="3"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;width:auto;"><img src="https://www.huamaoshuo.com/forum.php?mod=image&aid=9787&size=300x300&key=598efe63c4f0eba5&type=fixnone" border="0" style="width:auto;;max-width:677px;" aid="attachimg_9787" alt=""></span><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"></span></font></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><font size="3"><strong><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;">人，一定要按照你眼前的社会规则走完自己的一生吗？</span></strong><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"></span></font></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">毛姆的《月亮和六便士》以及《刀锋》就探讨了这样的问题。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><font size="3"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"></span></font></p><p style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3"><br></font></p><font size="3"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;">《月亮和六便士》里，</span><span style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: PingFangSC-Light;">35</span><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;">岁，经济富裕有一定社会地位的证券经纪人，抛妻弃子，丢掉工作去学画画。</span></font><p style=""><font size="3"><br></font></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">他最终在远离社会的塔希提岛定居。他画出的画不卖，甚至不邀请他人观看。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">他彻底<strong>不需要社会认可</strong>，完全活在自己的精神世界中，最终死在了自己的画中，心满意足。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">他不是应该一直干着金融，享受着中产的舒适吗？如果人人都像他这么干，<strong>个人自由了，幸福了，但是社会就乱套了。</strong></font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); min-height: 14px; line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: Baskerville;"><font size="3"><br></font></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">《刀锋》里的主人公，不按照社会期待生活，不结婚不上班，到处云游学习，什么都学。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">最后混在人群中做了一个平平无奇的出租车司机。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">按照社会规则来看，他的人生如此荒诞不经，最后的结局又是那么失败。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">这些行为，都是人看到自己以后，真正去追求作为人的自由。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">但是社会的<strong>主流价值观不希望你这样想</strong>，不然社会就乱套了。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); min-height: 14px; line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: Baskerville;"><font size="3"><br></font></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><font size="3"><strong><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;">伏尔泰</span></strong><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;">讲：世界上根本就没有神，但千万别告诉我的仆人，免得他半夜把我宰掉。</span></font></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><font size="3"><br></font></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">作为一个地球上的生命，一个能够自己主宰自己思想和躯体的人类。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">追求个人幸福和自由是<strong>本能</strong>，也是基本的<strong>权利</strong>。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><font size="3"><strong><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;">只需要甄别出社会给你的定义，找到自己真正的内核</span></strong><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;">。</span></font></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">卸掉束缚自我的隐性枷锁，擦掉笼罩在心灵明镜上的桎梏、伪装与尘土，让它发出本来自由的光芒。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">王阳明讲，我性自足。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">灵魂的能量是神奇而巨大的，找到自己真正的灵魂，驾驭着自然给你的超级自性。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><font size="3">实现真正的自我和自由。</font></span></p><p style="text-align: center; margin: 0px 0px 20px; font-stretch: normal; -webkit-text-stroke: rgb(0, 0, 0); line-height: 2em; text-indent: 0em; font-family: "Songti SC";"><span style="font-family: PingFangSC-Light;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;width:auto;"><font size="3"><img src="https://www.huamaoshuo.com/forum.php?mod=image&aid=9788&size=300x300&key=b577a954f61e37ac&type=fixnone" border="0" style="width:auto;;max-width:677px;" aid="attachimg_9788" alt=""></font></span></span></p></section></section></section><br><font color="#c0c0c0" style="" size="1">转载声明：本文转载自「孙娟的书房」，搜索「SJDSFSJ」即可关注，[阅读原文]。点击右上角关注获取更多资讯！</font><font size="3"><br></font>花猫写作网拥有一帮喜欢读书、喜欢写作、喜欢分享传播正能量的朋友每天与你一起学习成长，在这里你不仅仅是收获知识。转载请联系花猫说（id:hmshuyouquan）进行授权转载。
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