又一波疫情：内心越慌乱，你越要修炼这4件事
<section style="box-sizing: border-box; text-align: justify;" data-mpa-powered-by="yiban.io"><section style="text-align: center; letter-spacing: 1.4px; padding: 0px 18px; color: rgb(27, 107, 196); box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br></font></p></section><section style="letter-spacing: 1.3px; line-height: 2; padding: 0px 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="color: rgb(94, 94, 94); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">这一波传播速度极快的疫情，又一次改变了很多人的生活计划与节奏。</font></span></p><p style="color: rgb(94, 94, 94); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p><p style="color: rgb(94, 94, 94); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">外界很混乱，内心很慌乱，怎么办？</font></p><p style="color: rgb(94, 94, 94); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;"><font size="3"><br></font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; letter-spacing: 1.3px; line-height: 2;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17); box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">答案是：借事修炼，修炼自己的“内在稳定性”。</font></strong></span></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p></section><section style="text-align: center; color: rgb(178, 177, 177); line-height: 1.2; letter-spacing: 1.5px; padding: 0px 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">维度一 </font></strong></span></span></p><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color:#ef5411;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">修炼稳定的情绪</font></strong></span></span></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p></section><section style="color: rgb(94, 94, 94); letter-spacing: 1.3px; line-height: 2; padding: 0px 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">“内在稳定性”的第一个重要维度是：稳定的情绪。</font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;"><font size="3"><br></font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><span style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;">当遇到意外事件或听到坏消息时，我们的情绪通常都会做出非常激烈的反应。而不稳定的情绪，正是导致生活工作失控的原因。</span><span style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;"></span></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">很多人都曾跟我抱怨：控制情绪谈何容易？每次问题发生时，我都会想尽一切办法控制情绪，让它不要爆炸或极度低落，然而没过多久，只要一遇到事，情绪就会再次跌宕起伏。</font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">其实，问题刚好就隐藏在这段文字里 - <span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17); box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">对于情绪，我们要做的从来不是“控制”，相反，我们要去观察。</strong></span></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">假如你能平静如实的观察自己正在发生的那股情绪，“抽离”的看着它，就像是看着另一个人的情绪。那么，你的情绪问题就会解决大半。</font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">相反，假如你不能“抽离”，而是与你的情绪合二为一，它在哪儿你就在哪儿，它将你带去哪儿，你就去向哪儿。那么，你就只能深陷其中，随之跌宕起伏。</font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; letter-spacing: 1.3px; line-height: 2;"><strong><font size="3">所以，想要获得情绪稳定性的第一个方法就是：观察它。</font></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">观察之后，你可以试着去接纳它。<br></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">比如：带着关怀，带着爱对自己这么说：</font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">· 我有这样的感受很正常。</font></span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">· 大家在面对这样的情况时，都会出现同样的感受。</font></span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">· 我有这样的感受是可以理解的。</font></span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">· 我允许自己有这样的感受。</font></span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br></font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">或者，你也可以尝试用理性的思考去看一看到底是什么样“不切实际”的想法或思维模式导致了你的这种情绪。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">如此一来，你的情绪就会渐渐消退。</font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br></font></p></section><section style="text-align: center; color: rgb(178, 177, 177); line-height: 1.2; letter-spacing: 1.5px; padding: 0px 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">维度二 </font></strong></span></span></p><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color:#ef5411;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">创造规律的生活</font></strong></span></span></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p></section><section style="color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 1.3px; line-height: 2; padding: 0px 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">外界环境越是混乱，我们就越是需要定海神针一般的“内心支点”。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">有一种“内心支点”是任何时候、任何情境下，你都可以拿来就用的，而且只要你去用了，你的内在很快就能获得一种稳定感，这就是“规律的生活”。 </font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, " helvetica="" neue",="" "pingfang="" sc",="" "hiragino="" sans="" gb",="" "microsoft="" yahei="" ui",="" yahei",="" arial,="" sans-serif;"=""><font size="3"><br></font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><span style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, " helvetica="" neue",="" "pingfang="" sc",="" "hiragino="" sans="" gb",="" "microsoft="" yahei="" ui",="" yahei",="" arial,="" sans-serif;"="">我们大多数人都是这样：</span><span style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, " helvetica="" neue",="" "pingfang="" sc",="" "hiragino="" sans="" gb",="" "microsoft="" yahei="" ui",="" yahei",="" arial,="" sans-serif;"="">在熟悉的、可预测的情境中，会获得舒适感和安全感。</span><span style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, " helvetica="" neue",="" "pingfang="" sc",="" "hiragino="" sans="" gb",="" "microsoft="" yahei="" ui",="" yahei",="" arial,="" sans-serif;"="">而如果处于混沌和不确定的情境中，则会倍感焦虑。</span></font></p></section><section style="color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 1.3px; line-height: 2; padding: 0px 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17); box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">你</strong></span><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17); box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">的安全感越多，对于不确定的忍耐度也就越大。安全感可以支持你去面对混乱和不确定性，可以让你身处其中而不被吞噬。</strong></span></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">因此，当外界混乱不堪、内心飘摇不定的时候，你就失去了你需要的安全感，这时你就需要去创造这种安全感，而安全感的源头之一就是规律有序的生活，这是最简单易得的方法。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">具体怎样做？</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong><span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">你可以创作一个属于自己的24小时生活图。<span style="font-weight: 400;"></span></font></span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">首先，将你的所有生活事件进行分类，比如</span><span style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;">：</span><span style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;">娱乐、睡眠、社交、用餐、运动、学习、工作、家庭。</span></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">然后根据自己实际的情况增加、删除、修改其中任何领域。</font></span></p></section><section style="text-align: center; margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="max-width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;width: 90%;height: auto;box-sizing: border-box;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;max-width: 100%;width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><img src="https://www.huamaoshuo.com/forum.php?mod=image&aid=9311&size=300x300&key=f09c117392740490&type=fixnone" border="0" style="vertical-align: middle;max-width: 100%;width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;;max-width:677px;" aid="attachimg_9311" alt=""></font></span></section></section><section style="text-align: center; color: rgb(125, 125, 125); line-height: 1.5; letter-spacing: 1px; padding: 0px 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">图：生活事件分类</font></p></section><section style="color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 1.3px; line-height: 2; padding: 0px 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">再根据自己的实际情况，在每个领域中写出具体事件并分配时间。 </font></span></p></section><section style="text-align: center; margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="max-width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;box-sizing: border-box;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><img src="https://www.huamaoshuo.com/forum.php?mod=image&aid=9312&size=300x300&key=ce0793bd86861229&type=fixnone" border="0" style="vertical-align: middle;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;;max-width:677px;" aid="attachimg_9312" alt=""></font></span></section></section><section style="text-align: center; color: rgb(125, 125, 125); line-height: 1.5; letter-spacing: 1px; padding: 0px 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">图：一天24小时</font></p></section><section style="line-height: 2; letter-spacing: 1.3px; padding: 0px 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p></section><section style="color: rgb(96, 96, 96); line-height: 2; letter-spacing: 1.3px; padding: 0px 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">最后，将你的生活事件安排到各个时间段里，并严格执行。在这里，我拿出几个历史上名人的一天安排给你参考。</font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p></section><section style="text-align: center; margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="max-width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;width: 92%;height: auto;box-sizing: border-box;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;max-width: 100%;width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><img src="https://www.huamaoshuo.com/forum.php?mod=image&aid=9313&size=300x300&key=debf2c97eddfc73e&type=fixnone" border="0" style="vertical-align: middle;max-width: 100%;width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;;max-width:677px;" aid="attachimg_9313" alt=""></font></span></section></section><section style="text-align: center; color: rgb(125, 125, 125); line-height: 1.5; letter-spacing: 1px; padding: 0px 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">图：达尔文的一天</font></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p></section><section style="text-align: center; margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="max-width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;width: 92%;height: auto;box-sizing: border-box;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;max-width: 100%;width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><img src="https://www.huamaoshuo.com/forum.php?mod=image&aid=9314&size=300x300&key=4c7d6b73d729fcac&type=fixnone" border="0" style="vertical-align: middle;max-width: 100%;width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;;max-width:677px;" aid="attachimg_9314" alt=""></font></span></section></section><section style="text-align: center; color: rgb(125, 125, 125); line-height: 1.5; letter-spacing: 1px; padding: 0px 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">图：莫扎特的一天</font></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p></section><section style="text-align: center; margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="max-width: 100%;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;line-height: 0;width: 92%;height: auto;box-sizing: border-box;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;max-width: 100%;width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><img src="https://www.huamaoshuo.com/forum.php?mod=image&aid=9315&size=300x300&key=62ff77cdd9d12d91&type=fixnone" border="0" style="vertical-align: middle;max-width: 100%;width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;;max-width:677px;" aid="attachimg_9315" alt=""></font></span></section></section><section style="text-align: center; color: rgb(125, 125, 125); line-height: 1.5; letter-spacing: 1px; padding: 0px 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">图：巴尔扎克的一天</font></p></section><section style="line-height: 2; letter-spacing: 1.6px; padding: 0px 32px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p></section><section style="color: rgb(96, 96, 96); line-height: 2; letter-spacing: 1.3px; padding: 0px 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">当你将自己的生活工作都安排到24小时图中，就可以按照它去执行了，在执行过程中，你的内心会越来越笃定，而你的内在稳定性也会越来越强。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br></font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br></font></span></p></section><section style="text-align: center; color: rgb(178, 177, 177); line-height: 1.2; letter-spacing: 1.5px; padding: 0px 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">维度三 </font></strong></span></span></p><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color:#ef5411;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">增加你的支点</font></strong></span></span></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p></section><section style="color: rgb(96, 96, 96); line-height: 2; letter-spacing: 1.3px; padding: 0px 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">我见过一些因意外而意志崩溃的人，比如：</font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br></font></p><p style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: medium; letter-spacing: 1.3px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">曾有一位部门负责人，一直兢兢业业的工作，后因人事斗争，被辞退了。恰好，她是一位45岁的单身女性，平时几乎所有时间都扑在了工作上，就连周末放假都常去公司加班。</strong></p><p style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: medium; letter-spacing: 1.3px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: medium; letter-spacing: 1.3px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">所以，当她遭遇这件工作上的打击时，猛然间无法承受，几近崩溃，后来看了好几年的心理咨询师，再后来找到我，最终才渐渐好转。</strong></p></section><section style="color: rgb(96, 96, 96); line-height: 2; letter-spacing: 1.3px; padding: 0px 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">人生一方面的意外，常会导致一个人内在稳定性的丧失，并由此波及到人生的方方面面。</font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">但事实却是，每个人的人生都是多方面的，家庭、亲密关系、朋友、娱乐、职业发展、个人成长、艺术、爱好等。</font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17); box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">如果</strong></span><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17); box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">，你越是集中于其中一面，越是只关注其中一面，你的生活圈就越是狭小，你就越会容易被它击溃。</strong></span></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17); box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br></strong></span></font></p><p style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: medium; letter-spacing: 1.3px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">如果爱情是你的全部，当你失恋了，你就很容易陷入崩溃。</strong></p><p style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: medium; letter-spacing: 1.3px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: medium; letter-spacing: 1.3px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">如果工作是你的全部，当你失业了，你就很容易陷入崩溃。</strong></p><p style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: medium; letter-spacing: 1.3px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: medium; letter-spacing: 1.3px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">如果家庭是你的全部，当你遇到家人分离，你可能就会彻底崩溃......</strong></p></section><section style="color: rgb(96, 96, 96); line-height: 2; letter-spacing: 1.3px; padding: 0px 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">相反，你的生活圈越大，你就越是容易恢复，因为你整个人生的支点从来都不只是某一方面，而是方方面面，这样你个人的弹性与内在稳定性就会大大增强。</font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong><font size="3">所以，你要去试着增加人生中的其他支点。</font></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">比如：以前你总是依托于工作，那么现在你可以试着去恋爱。以前你总是围着老公转，现在也许你可以去工作。以前你是一个全职妈妈，所有的事都是关于孩子的，现在也许你可以去增加一些爱好，培养一些特长。</font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">总之，不要让你人生的支点只有一个，我的建议是至少两个。</font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">唯有这样，<span style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;">你才能不再局限于生命的某个侧面，从而提高自己的弹性与内在稳定性。</span><span style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;"> </span><span style="text-align: center; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, " helvetica="" neue",="" "pingfang="" sc",="" "hiragino="" sans="" gb",="" "microsoft="" yahei="" ui",="" yahei",="" arial,="" sans-serif;"=""></span></font></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br></font></p></section><section style="text-align: center; color: rgb(178, 177, 177); line-height: 1.2; letter-spacing: 1.5px; padding: 0px 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">维度四</font></strong></span></span></p><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color:#ef5411;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"> 设置你的“灯塔”</font></strong></span></span></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p></section><section style="color: rgb(96, 96, 96); line-height: 2; letter-spacing: 1.3px; padding: 0px 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">那些忽然遭遇意外事件的人，就像原本在大海里平稳航行的船，忽然间遇到了惊涛骇浪的侵袭，平衡顿失。</font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">等船重归平稳后，他已不知道自己想要航行的方向，于是就孤零零的漂浮在茫茫一片的海上。</font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">这时，假如远处有一盏明亮的灯塔，会怎么样呢？</font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">显然，灯塔能够为他指出前行的方向。</font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br></font></span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">这个“灯塔”，代表的正是你的长期目标。</font></span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br></font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;"></span></strong><span style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;">你的长期目标到底是什么？</span></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">是成为一个不断成长的人？一个改变世界的人？一个能让周围的人感到温暖美好的人？还是一个想要不断创造的人？</font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">这个长期目标就像茫茫大海上的一座灯塔，它的存在就是要帮助你，不论顺境逆境，都始终知道自己的方向。而不是当波浪翻滚、暗潮涌动的时候，迷失在大海之中，随波逐流。</font></span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">假如你的长期目标是用两年时间学好英语，进入外企工作，那么，这个目标会因为疫情出现、混乱发生而改变吗？</font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">显然不应该。</font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;"><font size="3">真实的人生总是会不断的被各种各样的意外打乱，你以为这是最后一次混乱，但也许很快就会再有一个。</font></span></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong><font size="3">所以，假如每一次意外来袭都能让你放下计划，那么最终将会怎样？你的长期目标还有实现的可能吗？</font></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">不用我说，你也知道答案。</font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">所以，想要实现长远目标的关键不是你的目标有多宏大，而是你是否真有每天向着那个目标前进一步的决心和动作，不论是意外发生，还是混乱阻碍，你有没有“日拱一卒”？</font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br></font></p><p style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: medium; letter-spacing: 1.3px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">著名小说家村上春树，在至少25年里，每天都坚持跑步，正是这种坚持给了他强健的体魄，让他得以每年写出一本书。</strong></p><p style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: medium; letter-spacing: 1.3px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: medium; letter-spacing: 1.3px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">作家毛姆，从他18岁起就不断记录各种创作素材，笔记、备忘录、旅游札记，一直坚持了50多年，这才最终写出了脍炙人口的《月亮与六便士》，而这些笔记则是他一生文学创作的起点和终点。</strong></p></section><section style="color: rgb(96, 96, 96); line-height: 2; letter-spacing: 1.3px; padding: 0px 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">这样的例子还有很多。</font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong><font size="3">日拱一卒，说的是持之以恒的，每天都在自己专注的领域上投入时间和精力。哪怕这个努力不算很多，但也从不懈怠，不因混乱发生而改变这种投入。</font></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">拥有明确的长远目标，同时坚持“日拱一卒”，就等于是获得了“内在稳定性”的那盏灯塔。</font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><span style="text-align: center; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, " helvetica="" neue",="" "pingfang="" sc",="" "hiragino="" sans="" gb",="" "microsoft="" yahei="" ui",="" yahei",="" arial,="" sans-serif;"=""></span></font></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br></font></p></section><section style="color: rgb(183, 7, 7); line-height: 2; letter-spacing: 1.6px; padding: 0px 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">最后的话</font></strong></p></section><section style="color: rgb(96, 96, 96); line-height: 2; letter-spacing: 1.3px; padding: 0px 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3"><br></font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font size="3">希望这四个维度，能提供给你切实可行的修炼自身内在稳定性的方法，让你在未来的人生路上越走越稳，越走越好。</font></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p></section></section><br><font size="2" color="#c0c0c0">转载声明：本文转载自「艾菲的理想」，搜索「xiaoyaolsh」即可关注，[阅读原文]。点击右上角关注获取更多资讯！</font><font size="3"><br></font>花猫写作网拥有一帮喜欢读书、喜欢写作、喜欢分享传播正能量的朋友每天与你一起学习成长，在这里你不仅仅是收获知识。转载请联系花猫说（id:hmshuyouquan）进行授权转载。
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