如何用四种方法，荒废你的2021年？
<section style="box-sizing: border-box; text-align: justify;" data-mpa-powered-by="yiban.io"><section style="font-size: 12px; text-align: center; letter-spacing: 1.4px; padding: 0px 18px; color: rgb(27, 107, 196); box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section><p><source src="https://res.wx.qq.com/voice/getvoice?mediaid=MzA4NTU3NjAwNl8yNjUwMDQ5MzQ5" type="audio/mpeg">msg_error_browser_too_low</audio><br>如何用四种方法荒废你的2021年？.mp3</p></section><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; text-align: center;"><span style="color: rgb(136, 136, 136);font-size: 15px;">(转述师：幸而）</span></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; text-align: center;"><br></p></section><section style="font-size: 15px; color: rgb(60, 60, 60); letter-spacing: 1.3px; line-height: 2; padding: 0px 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">当年，几乎所有人都在试图修正麦克斯韦电磁定律，以使它符合牛顿三大运动定律的时候，<span style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;box-sizing: border-box;">爱因斯坦却转了个180°的大弯。</span></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">他修正了牛顿的定律，使它符合了麦克斯韦的定律。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">最后，爱因斯坦提出了相对论。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">当大多数人都在研究如何获得幸福、如何获得成功的时候，<span style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;box-sizing: border-box;">査理芒格却说：</span></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></span></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;box-sizing: border-box;">“如果要明白人生如何得到幸福，就要先研究人生如何才能变得痛苦；要研究企业如何做强做大，就要先研究企业是如何衰败的。”</span></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">为什么？</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">因为，有时正向思考未必能将我们带到想去的地方，但逆向思考却常常可以。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;">现在，就让我们用“逆向思考”的方法来看看：你该如何荒废自己的2021年？</span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; letter-spacing: 1.3px; line-height: 2;">在这里，我为你提供了四个最佳的，用于荒废2021年的好方法。</p></section><section style="font-size: 15px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(60, 60, 60); letter-spacing: 1.3px; line-height: 2;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; letter-spacing: 1.3px; line-height: 2;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 11px; margin: 5px 0%; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="border-width: 0px 0px 1px;border-style: solid;border-bottom-color: rgb(201, 199, 199);font-size: 15px;padding: 0px 16px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p></section></section><section style="font-size: 20px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17); text-align: center; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, " helvetica="" neue",="" "pingfang="" sc",="" "hiragino="" sans="" gb",="" "microsoft="" yahei="" ui",="" yahei",="" arial,="" sans-serif;"=""></strong><br></p><p style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17); text-align: center; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="padding-right: 16px;padding-left: 16px;text-align: center;color: rgb(239, 84, 17);line-height: 1.2;letter-spacing: 1.5px;font-size: 20px;"><p><span style="font-size: 22px;"><strong>方法一</strong></span></p><p><br></p><p><span style="font-size: 19px;"><strong> 持续纠结：</strong></span></p><p><strong style="font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, " helvetica="" neue",="" "pingfang="" sc",="" "hiragino="" sans="" gb",="" "microsoft="" yahei="" ui",="" yahei",="" arial,="" sans-serif;font-size:="" 19px;"="">最为痛苦的荒废</strong></p><p><br></p><p><br></p></section></section><section style="font-size: 15px; color: rgb(60, 60, 60); letter-spacing: 1.3px; line-height: 2; padding: 0px 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">2020年年底，我收到一位读者留言：</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: 14px; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: 14px; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;">“回看2020，我看到了一个非常分裂的自己：一面享受在舒适区的感觉，一面为‘这辈子可能就这样了’而感到失望和痛苦。</strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: 14px; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: 14px; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;">一方面，我觉得工作上一直维持现状挺省心的，但是我又不甘于裹足不前，觉得自己还可以更上一层；觉得自己有雄心万丈，但日复一日依然不敢踏出改变的关键一步。</strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: 14px; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: 14px; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;">于是，我就在这样的拉扯纠结中，又渡过了一年，回想去年，也是这样过的。”</strong></p></section><section style="font-size: 15px; color: rgb(60, 60, 60); letter-spacing: 1.3px; line-height: 2; padding: 0px 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">这，就是典型的纠结。</span></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;">一方面，对现状感到不满或不安，另一方面，又不敢走出现有的圈子，甚至连一些小的行动都看不见。</span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">于是，一年、两年、三年，甚至整个人生就在这旷日持久的纠结中荒废了。</strong></span></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">这让我想起了《聊斋志异》里的故事：</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: 14px; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: 14px; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;">两个牧童在山里的狼窝里抓了两只小狼，这时大狼回来了，于是，他们各自爬上了一棵树，相距数十步。</strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: 14px; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: 14px; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;">一个牧童在树上扭小狼的蹄爪、耳朵，故意让它大声嚎叫。</strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: 14px; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: 14px; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;">大狼听见声音后抬头看，愤怒地跑到树下又叫又抓。</strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: 14px; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: 14px; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;">这时，另一个牧童在另一棵树上让小狼大声嚎叫。</strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: 14px; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: 14px; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;">大狼听见声音，四处张望，看见了另一只小狼；于是离开这棵树，快速跑到另一棵树下，像刚才那样狂叫撕抓。</strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: 14px; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: 14px; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;">这时，前一棵树上的牧童再次让他抓住的小狼嚎叫，于是大狼又转身扑了过去。</strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: 14px; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: 14px; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;">就这样，两只小狼在两个牧童的扭打下不断叫唤，引得大狼不断嚎叫，不断奔跑，来回数十次。</strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: 14px; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: 14px; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;">然后，大狼跑得渐渐慢了，声音也渐渐变弱了。</strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: 14px; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: 14px; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;">最后，大狼奄奄一息，僵直躺在地上，不再动弹。</strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: 14px; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: 14px; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;">当牧童从树上跳下来看时，发现它已经断气了。</strong></p></section><section style="font-size: 15px; color: rgb(60, 60, 60); letter-spacing: 1.3px; line-height: 2; padding: 0px 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">虽然，你不是狼。</span></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;">但是，同样的纠结也会给你带来很多隐形伤害，包括对你情绪、精力以及时间的持续消耗。</span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;">而且，这种纠结有种天然的吸力，能让你在不知不觉间沉沦其中，甚至会为一个问题纠结多年。 </span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">为什么？</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">心理治疗师海灵格曾说：<strong>“受苦比解决问题来得容易，承受不幸比享受幸福来得简单。”</strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">演员徐峥也说：<strong>“人活在一个痛苦里比他解决问题要容易，因为解决问题需要更大的勇敢。” </strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">的确如此，对绝大多数人来说，持续活在痛苦里，在痛苦里纠结，都比直面痛苦、解决痛苦容易的多。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">毕竟，前面会有两大阻碍。</span></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;">阻碍一：“趋利避害”的人性，让我们很难直面问题。</span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">因为直面问题往往意味着，我们得去面对自己的恐惧、焦虑。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong>而人的本性都是“趋利避害”的，这样一来你就会设法保护自己，想办法让自己远离恐惧和焦虑。</strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">于是，你就会对问题采用“躲闪”策略，通过其他事情转移注意力，从而忘记真正问题的存在。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">直到在做年底总结或午夜梦回的时候，才忽然发现，那个问题其实一直都横亘在心里，压的自己从来都没舒服过。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong>可是，等到年底过去，或梦醒之后，根植在我们身体里的“趋利避害”本能就会再次出来。</strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">于是，你就再一次的陷入了“不愿直面痛苦与问题”的状态中，继续又一轮的“躲闪”和逃避。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">曾经，我就是用这种方式，对一个问题躲闪和纠结了好几年。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">后来想起，后悔不已。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;">阻碍二：缺少方法，让我们不知如何解决问题。</span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">直面问题后，还得解决问题。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">这时，很多人会再次感受到巨大的困难与压力，产生“畏难”情绪。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong>其实，解决问题的方法永远都有。<span style="font-weight: 400;"></span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;">你可以靠自己去解决，也可以通过借力，即借助书、课程、心理咨询师、个人成长教练、专业老师等方法来找到解决问题的方法。</span></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong><span style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;">虽然</span><span style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;">习惯于痛苦和纠结，是最简单、最容易、也最顺应人性和本能的反应和选择。</span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong><span style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;"><br></span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong><span style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;">但是，</span><span style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;">习惯于痛苦是可怕的，习惯于痛苦而不自知则是危险的。</span></strong><strong style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;"></span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong><br></strong><strong><span style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;"><strong style="letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;">相反，每一次出现在眼前的痛苦和问题，其实才是我们成长的契机，如果没有抓住这个契机，你就等于失去了一次快速成长的机会。</span></strong></span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong><span style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;"><strong style="letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;">而人一生中的一次次成长，正是由这些痛苦，以及直面痛苦后的解决过程铺就的。</span></strong></span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">这就是第一种荒废2021年的绝好方法 - 持续纠结，不去面对。<strong style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;"></span></strong></p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p></section><section style="font-size: 11px; margin: 5px 0%; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="border-width: 0px 0px 1px;border-style: solid;border-bottom-color: rgb(201, 199, 199);font-size: 15px;padding: 0px 16px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p></section><section style="font-size: 18px; text-align: center; color: rgb(178, 177, 177); line-height: 1.2; letter-spacing: 1.5px; padding: 0px 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;font-size: 22px;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">方法二 </strong></span></p><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="font-size: 20px;color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></strong></span></p><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="font-size: 19px;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;"> 停留在“我知道”：</span></strong></span></p><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="font-size: 19px;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17); box-sizing: border-box;">最为可惜的荒废</span></strong></span></p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 1.3px; line-height: 2; padding: 0px 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;box-sizing: border-box;">生活在这样一个知识信息爆炸的年代，我们每天都能接触到各种各样的知识和信息。</span><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">于是，很多人都会把“这些我都知道”挂在嘴边。</p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color:#3c3c3c;">但他不知道是：</span><span style="color:#ef5411;"><strong>他说的知道，并不是真正的知道。</strong></span></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color:#ef5411;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"><br></span></span></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">“知道”共有三个层次：<span style="color:#ef5411;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"></span></span></p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;">第一层知道，是停留在语言文字上的“知道”。</span></strong></p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">你看了一本书，所以知道了这个内容。</p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">这，可以叫做“我知道了”，但它并不是真正意义上的知道。</p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">更深一层，你可以画个思维导图把你学到的东西归纳出来，形成一个体系。</p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">这看起来是非常好的“知道”，但依然属于第一层次。</p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;">第二层知道，是“切肤”的“知道”。 </span></strong></p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">你对书中提到的内容，有过切肤的体验，产生了强烈的共鸣，甚至是灵魂上的共振。</p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">这样的“知道”要比第一层的“知道”略深一层。</p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">但依然不算是真正的知道。</p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;">第三层知道，是“知行合一”的“知道”。 </span></strong></p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">第一层和第二层的“知”，还是停留在大脑层面上的，最多能有一些身体上、内心里的反应。</p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong>但，第三层的“知道”则是“做到”。</strong></p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">因为只有通过“行” ，踏踏实实地实践那些被你大脑理解的内容，通过身体力行来获得的“知”，才是真正的“知”。</p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">很早以前，我就“知道”王阳明所说的“知行合一”这个词。</p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">但那时，我对它的理解还停留在第一层的知道上，所以，它并未对我的人生产生任何真正的影响。</p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong>直到后来，当我真正理解了这四个字的意思并开始践行的时候，我的人生才发生了巨大的改变。</strong></p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">举例来说：</p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: 14px; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></strong></p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: 14px; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;box-sizing: border-box;">虽然我很早就知道，健康最重要，所以应该锻炼身体。</span></strong></p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: 14px; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></strong></p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: 14px; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;">但，我并没这样做。</strong></p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: 14px; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></strong></p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: 14px; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;">直到我生病时，我才意识到了锻炼身体的重要性，这时我就有了“切肤”层面的“知道”。</strong></p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: 14px; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></strong></p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: 14px; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;">但，我依然没有做。</strong></p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: 14px; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></strong></p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: 14px; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;">直到我领悟了“知行合一”的道理，我才将头脑中的“知”完完全全、彻彻底底的变成了行动上的“知”。</strong></p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: 14px; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></strong></p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: 14px; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;">所以，后来在我嘴上说出“健康最重要”的同时，我就已经把每天的部分时间拿了出来，用于运动，而不再像以前那样“只知道不行动”了。</strong></p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: 14px; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></strong></p><p style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: 14px; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;">这时，二者就成为了一件事，在我“知”的那一刻，我就已经在“行”了。</strong></p></section><section style="font-size: 15px; color: rgb(60, 60, 60); letter-spacing: 1.3px; line-height: 2; padding: 0px 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">这，才是真正的“知行合一”。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;">所以，头脑层面的“知”，只是你误以为自己懂了，事实上，那只是你在自欺欺人。</span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;">这也是“道理都懂，却还是过不好这一生”的原因之一。</span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">如果你不能将书本上、课堂上学到的知识、理论、方法真正的落地实践，那一切都只能是精神上的自慰，都是“自我”对你的愚弄。 </span></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;">同时，终日将“我知道”挂在嘴边的人，也只会拥有极为狭小的成长空间。</span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">儒家说，圣人因为不知，所以知之；小人因为知之，所以不知。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">为什么？</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">因为圣人知道自己不知道，所以戒慎恐惧，注意警醒，不断观察学习提问，所以能够知道。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">小人因为不知道自己不知道，认为自己都知道，所以不观察不学习不提问不践行，所以不知道。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;">所以，“只知道”，而不能“知行合一”，就是对生命最可惜的荒废。</span></strong></p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 11px; margin: 5px 0%; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="border-width: 0px 0px 1px;border-style: solid;border-bottom-color: rgb(201, 199, 199);font-size: 15px;padding: 0px 16px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="padding-right: 16px; padding-left: 16px; text-align: center; color: rgb(239, 84, 17); line-height: 1.2; letter-spacing: 1.5px; font-size: 20px; box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="font-size: 22px;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br></strong></span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="font-size: 22px;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">方法三</strong></span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"></strong><span style="font-size: 19px;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"> 陷入“黑洞时间”：</strong></span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="font-size: 19px;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">最没价值的荒废</strong></span></p></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="padding-right: 16px; padding-left: 16px; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(60, 60, 60); letter-spacing: 1.3px; line-height: 2; box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;">人与人产生差距的源头，不在智力、能力、思维，而在于把时间和注意力用在了哪里。</span></strong></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;">而这里的关键之一就是：“黑洞时间”的使用频度。</span></strong></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">什么是黑洞？ </span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;">在物理学中，黑洞说的是吸引力非常大的天体，它会扭曲时空。</p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;">假如一个人不慎掉入宇宙黑洞，等他出来时，之前几岁大的女儿可能早已变成了老太婆。</p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">这就是我给这类时间起名为“黑洞时间”的原因 -</span><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;"> 当你身在其中，时间就会不知不觉的流失……等你出来时，却发现时间早已过去很久。</span></strong></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;">有读者留言说：</p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="letter-spacing: 1.3px; color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: 14px; box-sizing: border-box;">“我想学习写字，于是就关注了一个教写字的短视频。可每次进去想练字时，就会被一些乱七八糟的东西吸引，一刷就是老半天，刷累了出来，才发现原来自己是要去找练字视频的，每次都这样，无一例外。”</strong></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="letter-spacing: 1.3px; color: rgb(125, 125, 125); font-size: 14px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></strong></p></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="padding-right: 16px; padding-left: 16px; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(60, 60, 60); letter-spacing: 1.3px; line-height: 2; box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;">这，就是被扭曲的时空感，是被“黑洞”吞噬掉的时间。</p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;">为什么有些App会让我们产生这种感受呢？</p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="padding-right: 16px; padding-left: 16px; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); letter-spacing: 1.3px; line-height: 2; box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;">第一，这种短视频没有边界感，一条连一条，除非你很累很渴很饿，否则你很难意识到应该停下来了。</p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;box-sizing: border-box;">第二，它会投每人之所好，给你源源不断的送上你喜欢的东西，那你又如何逃得掉呢？</span></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;box-sizing: border-box;">第三，它给人的刺激是多感官的，是能带来极度快感的。</span></p></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="padding-right: 16px; padding-left: 16px; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(60, 60, 60); letter-spacing: 1.3px; line-height: 2; box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">就这样，你毫无还手之力的坠入了“黑洞时间”</span><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;"> - 在这里，你无需思考，也无需面对现实中的烦恼，你感受到是一种彻底的快乐与放松。</span></strong></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;">除了短视频，互联网上的很多东西都能带来黑洞时间。</p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;">但是，当你的时间不断流向“黑洞时间”，剩下的用于学习、思考、成长以及陪伴家人的时间就会越来越少。</span></strong></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;">而且，因为它会扭曲时空，所以身处其中的你并不会感到时光的流逝。</span></strong></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;">当然，我说这些并不意味着，你就不能放松休息了。</p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;">事实上，每个人都要给自己足够的放松休息时间，否则效率就会越来越低，同时也会严重缺乏灵感，无法创新。</p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;">你可以换一种更好的方式去做放松休闲，比如运动、比如看一部好的电影、比如去欣赏自然的美。</p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;">这样，你就不会常常陷入“黑洞时间”。</p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="box-sizing: border-box;">这样，你的放松和休息就是有益身心的，而且还能从中获得更高效的放松，以及更丰沛的能量。</p></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="padding-right: 16px;padding-left: 16px;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(60, 60, 60);letter-spacing: 1.3px;line-height: 2;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;">这，就是最没价值的荒废：常常陷入“黑洞时间”，无法自拔。</p></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-top: 5px;margin-bottom: 5px;font-size: 11px;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="padding-right: 16px;padding-left: 16px;border-width: 0px 0px 1px;border-style: solid;border-bottom-color: rgb(201, 199, 199);font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="padding-right: 16px;padding-left: 16px;font-size: 18px;color: rgb(162, 34, 34);line-height: 2;letter-spacing: 1.6px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p></section></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 20px; text-align: center; color: rgb(239, 84, 17); line-height: 1.2; letter-spacing: 1.5px; padding: 0px 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="font-size: 22px;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"> 方法四 </strong></span></p><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"> </strong><span style="font-size: 19px;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"> 总想一口吃成胖子：</strong></span></p><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="font-size: 19px;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">最不现实的荒废</strong></span></p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 15px; color: rgb(60, 60, 60); letter-spacing: 1.3px; line-height: 2; padding: 0px 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;box-sizing: border-box;">坦白说，很多年前的我就是一个典型的速成主义者，总想要以最快的速度，实现升职加薪的目标，让家人过上我所期待的生活。</span><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></span></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">那时的我，总是心急火燎、急功近利。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;">急功近利，势必会带来焦虑。</span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;"></span><span style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;">因为，我想几步路就走完马拉松，一口就吃成胖子。</span></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;">更糟糕的是，这样的焦虑，还会将我们带入一场恶性循环。</span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); letter-spacing: 1.3px;">正如曾</span></span><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); letter-spacing: 1.3px;">国藩说的：</span><span style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); letter-spacing: 1.3px;">“一经焦躁，则心绪少佳，办事必不能妥善。</span><span style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); letter-spacing: 1.3px;">”</span></span></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="text-align: center;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; text-align: center;"><span style="color: rgb(136, 136, 136);">（插画师：泡饭）</span></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">最初，你对目标达成的焦虑会让你产生对自己、对周围环境、对老板的不满。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">于是，你越来越难沉下心去工作、学习和成长，甚至开始<span style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;">抱怨。</span></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">而工作上的缺乏投入、对老板和环境的抱怨，又会给想要获得的短期成功带来更大的阻力。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">最后，短期成功会愈发变得遥遥无期，而这种遥遥无期的感觉又会进一步加剧你的焦虑。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;">这就是一个非常典型的朝着“快速崩溃”而去的增强回路。 </span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">持续演变下去，最后你很可能会从“焦虑者”变成“严重抱怨者”，并最终被老板反感，甚至解雇。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">而这一切的起点就是“想要一口吃成个胖子”的心态。 </p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;">相反，假如你愿意相信自己的潜力，愿意多给自己一点时间，其实你想要的一切都是可以实现的。 </span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">正是因为经历过这样一种恶性循环的阶段，我后来才成为了坚定的“长期主义者”。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">相信我，如果你能不着急于外物，探索并找到自己的方向，然后向着那个方向一步步的走，每天坚持不断，夯实地基，做好准备，最后你一定可以收获到巨大的成就与满足。</span></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;">所以，“总想一口吃成胖子”，就是对生命最不现实的荒废。</span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60); font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;"></span></strong></p></section><section style="font-size: 11px; margin: 5px 0%; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="border-width: 0px 0px 1px;border-style: solid;border-bottom-color: rgb(201, 199, 199);font-size: 15px;padding: 0px 16px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p></section><section style="font-size: 18px; color: rgb(162, 34, 34); line-height: 2; letter-spacing: 1.6px; padding: 0px 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">最后的话<br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></strong></p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p></section><section style="font-size: 15px; color: rgb(60, 60, 60); letter-spacing: 1.3px; line-height: 2; padding: 0px 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;">当我们用逆向思考，找到了荒废2021年的最佳四法后，相信你已离充满收获的2021年又近了一步。</span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; letter-spacing: 1.3px; line-height: 2;"><strong>持续纠结，不去面对 - 最为痛苦的荒废</strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; letter-spacing: 1.3px; line-height: 2;"><strong><br></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; letter-spacing: 1.3px; line-height: 2;"><strong><strong style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;">停留在“我知道” - 最为可惜的荒废</strong></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; letter-spacing: 1.3px; line-height: 2;"><br></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; letter-spacing: 1.3px; line-height: 2;"><strong>经常陷入“黑洞时间” - 最没价值的荒废</strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; letter-spacing: 1.3px; line-height: 2;"><strong style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, " helvetica="" neue",="" "pingfang="" sc",="" "hiragino="" sans="" gb",="" "microsoft="" yahei="" ui",="" yahei",="" arial,="" sans-serif;"=""><br></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; letter-spacing: 1.3px; line-height: 2;"><strong style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, " helvetica="" neue",="" "pingfang="" sc",="" "hiragino="" sans="" gb",="" "microsoft="" yahei="" ui",="" yahei",="" arial,="" sans-serif;"="">总想一口吃成胖子 - 最不现实的荒废</strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">那么，现在你究竟想选哪一种呢？</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">还是全选？</p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="font-size: 15px; color: rgb(183, 7, 7); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">- END -</strong></span></p><p style="font-size: 15px; color: rgb(183, 7, 7); margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(135, 135, 135); font-size: 14px; letter-spacing: 1.3px; text-align: justify;"><br></span></p><p style="text-align: left; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1.3px; text-align: justify;"><font color="#c0c0c0" size="2">作者艾菲介绍：“只做影响你一生的课程”的蓬勃学院创始人&CEO、深度思考力畅销书《直击本质》作者、多家企业创始人&CEO的个人成长教练、Gallup全球认证优势教练、国际教练协会（ICF）认证专业级教练、前美国财富500强公司大中华区市场部负责人，20万读者公众号“艾菲的理想”创始人兼主笔。</font></span></p></section></section><font color="#c0c0c0" size="2"><br>转载声明：本文转载自「艾菲的理想」，搜索「xiaoyaolsh」即可关注，[阅读原文]。点击右上角关注获取更多资讯！</font><br>花猫写作网拥有一帮喜欢读书、喜欢写作、喜欢分享传播正能量的朋友每天与你一起学习成长，在这里你不仅仅是收获知识。转载请联系花猫说（id:hmshuyouquan）进行授权转载。
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