人生都不容易，凭什么他情绪稳定？我却跌宕起伏？
<section style="display: none;" data-tools="新媒体管家" data-label="powered by xmt.cn" data-mpa-powered-by="yiban.io"><br></section><section style="text-indent: 2em;"><section style="display: none;" data-label="powered by xmt.cn" data-tools="新媒体管家"><br></section></section><section style="text-align: justify; box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="padding: 0px 18px; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="text-align: left; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font color="#1b6bc4" size="2"><span style="letter-spacing: 1.4px;">作者：艾菲</span></font></p><p style="text-align: left; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><font color="#1b6bc4" size="2"><span style="letter-spacing: 1.4px;">来源：艾菲的理想（ID: xiaoyaolsh）</span></font></p><br></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section><p><span style="font-size: 16px;"><br></span><source src="https://res.wx.qq.com/voice/getvoice?mediaid=MzA4NTU3NjAwNl8yNjUwMDQ1Nzk0" type="audio/mpeg">msg_error_browser_too_low</audio><span style="font-size: 16px;"><p><span style="font-size: 16px;"><br></span></p>凭什么他情绪稳，我却跌宕起伏</span></p></section><p style="font-size: 16px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, " helvetica="" neue",="" "pingfang="" sc",="" "hiragino="" sans="" gb",="" "microsoft="" yahei="" ui",="" yahei",="" arial,="" sans-serif;font-size:="" 15px;letter-spacing:="" 1.3px;text-indent:="" 2em;color:="" rgb(178,="" 178,="" 178);"="">转述师：查谦</span><br></p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section><span style="color: rgb(94, 94, 94);font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 1.3px;text-indent: 2em;font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, " helvetica="" neue",="" "pingfang="" sc",="" "hiragino="" sans="" gb",="" "microsoft="" yahei="" ui",="" yahei",="" arial,="" sans-serif;"=""></span></section></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p></section><section style="font-size: 18px; padding: 0px 16px; text-align: center; color: rgb(178, 177, 177); line-height: 1.2; letter-spacing: 1.5px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;">— <span style="font-size: 32px;box-sizing: border-box;"><em style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">1</strong></span></em><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"></strong></span></span><span style="font-size: 22px;color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"></strong></span>—</p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 15px; padding: 0px 16px; color: rgb(94, 94, 94); line-height: 2; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">坦率的说，<span style="font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, " helvetica="" neue",="" "pingfang="" sc",="" "hiragino="" sans="" gb",="" "microsoft="" yahei="" ui",="" yahei",="" arial,="" sans-serif;letter-spacing:="" 1.3px;"="">我不但敏锐，而且还是急脾气，同时我对外界环境的适应性也相对较弱。</span></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">所以，在过去一些年里，我的情绪时常跌宕起伏，有时一天之内就能做个“过山车”。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">可以说，我在曾经那些年里深深受过情绪之苦。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong>后来我意识到：负面情绪带给我的不仅是心情的低落，还让我不知不觉沉溺其中，无法去做真正重要的事。</strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">这种情况让我非常担心：</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><ul class="list-paddingleft-2" style="list-style-type: circle;"><li><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(171, 171, 171);box-sizing: border-box;">我害怕每一次情绪很差的时候，我都需要别人安慰，否则就难以平复。</span></p></li></ul><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><ul class="list-paddingleft-2" style="list-style-type: circle;"><li><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(171, 171, 171);box-sizing: border-box;">我也担心我的时间精力就此消耗在了各种起伏不定的情绪里，一辈子啥也做不成。</span></p></li></ul><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">这种担心如影随形，让我下定决心要彻底地解决情绪问题。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box;">找答案的</span>过程非常漫长，也很曲折，但幸运的是，我最后找到了一套非常有效的与情绪相处的方法。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">随着时间积累，这些方法也慢慢变成了我的生活习惯，并重新塑造着我、改变着我，让我发生了很多非常好的变化。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">这就是今天这篇文章中我想跟大家聊的话题 - 情绪。</p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 11px; margin: 5px 0%; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="border-width: 0px 0px 1px;border-style: solid;padding: 0px 16px;font-size: 15px;border-bottom-color: rgb(201, 199, 199);box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 18px; padding: 0px 16px; text-align: center; color: rgb(178, 177, 177); line-height: 1.2; letter-spacing: 1.5px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;">— <span style="font-size: 32px;box-sizing: border-box;"><em style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">2</strong></span></em><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"></strong></span></span><span style="font-size: 22px;color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"></strong></span>—</p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 15px; padding: 0px 16px; color: rgb(94, 94, 94); line-height: 2; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">相信你一定听到过<strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box;">“我们总是伤害自己最亲近的人”</span></strong>这句话。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">为什么？</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">每当在外面受气，在工作中受委屈后，我们都会暂时将自己的情绪压抑下来，但其实，它并未消失也没有被解决。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">回到家后，这种被压抑的情绪只要遇到一丁点儿烦心事，就会像爆竹一样被点着，而受害者往往就是身边最亲近的人，也就是家人。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box;">这就是情绪的宣泄，一种错误的处理情绪方式，而我们宣泄情绪的主要对象往往就是身边最亲近的人。</span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">宣泄情绪看似有效，毕竟对情绪的宣泄能让我们感受到一瞬间的舒服。但其实，它却是一剂慢性毒药，会带来一系列的问题，而这些问题会随着时间推移变得越来越严重：</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(171, 171, 171);box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">· 无法正视并解决自己真正的问题</strong></span></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(171, 171, 171);box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">· 严重影响亲密关系或人际关系</strong></span></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(171, 171, 171);box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">· 下一次更容易爆发</strong></span></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(171, 171, 171);box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></strong></span></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box;">所以，常常宣泄情绪会将我们带入恶性循环的泥潭、不断重复、相互叠加、无法解决 - </span></strong>在A处生气，对B发泄。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">这样做的结果是：不但A处的情绪和问题没得到根本性的解决，对B也会心怀愧疚，而且与B的关系也会在逐渐积累下越来越糟，并最终失去亲近的人的支持和理解。</p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 11px; margin: 5px 0%; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="border-width: 0px 0px 1px;border-style: solid;padding: 0px 16px;font-size: 15px;border-bottom-color: rgb(201, 199, 199);box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 18px; padding: 0px 16px; text-align: center; color: rgb(178, 177, 177); line-height: 1.2; letter-spacing: 1.5px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;">— <span style="font-size: 32px;box-sizing: border-box;"><em style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">3</strong></span></em></span><span style="font-size: 20px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"></strong></span></span><span style="font-size: 22px;color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"></strong></span>—</p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 15px; padding: 0px 16px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); line-height: 2; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">除了发泄情绪，我们还喜欢<strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">控制情绪。</span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">但是，情绪真能被控制吗？</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">在《象与骑象人》一书中，作者严肃的告诉我们：</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; margin: -20px 0%; box-sizing: border-box; transform: translate3d(20px, 0px, 0px);" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="border-width: 0px 0px 0px 3px;border-style: solid;padding: 10px;width: 100%;border-right-color: rgba(160, 158, 158, 0.43);border-left-color: rgba(160, 158, 158, 0.43);display: inline-block;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="text-align: left;box-sizing: border-box;transform: translate3d(-13px, 0px, 0px);" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="padding: 0px 16px;text-align: justify;color: rgb(125, 125, 125);line-height: 1.8;letter-spacing: 1.3px;font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">作为情绪、感性的“大象”如果真的想要什么，那么作为理性的“骑象人”是一定斗不过的。</strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">只有在二者意见相同，或“大象”（情绪、感性）自己没有什么欲望的时候，“骑象人”（理性）才能指挥得动大象。</strong></p></section></section></section></section><section style="font-size: 15px; padding: 0px 16px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); line-height: 2; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">可见，控制情绪不但极其困难，而且也几乎不可能。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">而我们所说的控制，代表的其实是压抑。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">但是，有一件事你要知道：<strong style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);">凡是被控制的，终有一日会爆发。</span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">这句话是我探索多年后总结出的一个底层逻辑，它不仅适用我们与爱人的关系、与父母的关系、与孩子的关系，也同样适用我们与自己情绪的关系、与自己内心欲望及渴望的关系……</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">哪里有控制，哪里就有反抗；如果暂时没有看到反抗，或者关系还在维持，那它也是在悄无声息的酝酿中，终有一日会爆发出来。</span></strong></p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 11px; margin: 5px 0%; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="border-width: 0px 0px 1px;border-style: solid;padding: 0px 16px;font-size: 15px;border-bottom-color: rgb(201, 199, 199);box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 18px; padding: 0px 16px; text-align: center; color: rgb(178, 177, 177); line-height: 1.2; letter-spacing: 1.5px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;">— <span style="font-size: 32px;box-sizing: border-box;"><em style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">4</strong></span></em><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"></strong></span></span><span style="font-size: 22px;color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"></strong></span>—</p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 15px; padding: 0px 16px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); line-height: 2; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">每个人就像是个大瓶子。</span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">在刚结婚、刚工作的时候，我们的瓶子可能还是空的。当我们一次次遇到事情，产生了一次次的负面情绪后，这些“水”，就被装入了瓶子。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">当瓶子还有空间时，水不会溢出来。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">但是，水总有一天会装满瓶子，然后水就溢出来了，甚至会带来瓶子的爆裂。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">如果有一天你的情绪到了这种地步，你接下来的生活状态会怎么样？</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">· 第一种状态：</span></strong>从那天开始，在你的生活里，遇到的事不论大事小事，你都会动不动就发火，你变得一点包容心都没有了。于是，你身边的人会说，你怎么连一点包容心都没有，这点儿鸡毛蒜皮的小事至于跟我发火吗？</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">· 第二种状态：</span></strong>每隔一段时间，你就会爆发一次，就像发神经病一样。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">· 第三种状态：</span></strong>这个水还在，也不爆发，也没溢出来，但它没有凭空消失，它依旧存在于你的身体里。然后，它可能会攻击你的肝，你的胃，引起你的生理不适或疾病。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">这就是长期控制情绪所带来的三种可能。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">看到这里你可能会说，宣泄也不行，控制也不行，那我到底应该怎么管理我的情绪啊？</p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 11px; margin: 5px 0%; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="border-width: 0px 0px 1px;border-style: solid;padding: 0px 16px;font-size: 15px;border-bottom-color: rgb(201, 199, 199);box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 18px; padding: 0px 16px; text-align: center; color: rgb(178, 177, 177); line-height: 1.2; letter-spacing: 1.5px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;">— <span style="font-size: 32px;box-sizing: border-box;"><em style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">5</strong></span></em><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"></strong></span></span><span style="font-size: 22px;color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"></strong></span>—</p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 15px; padding: 0px 16px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); line-height: 2; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">不去宣泄，也不控制，我们要做的是：与自己的情绪相处。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">可怎么相处呢？</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">相处第一步就是觉知：你要觉知你的情绪，而且越敏锐越精微就越好。</span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">回顾我们在生活和工作中的反应模式，可能你很快就会发现：<span style="color: rgb(171, 171, 171);box-sizing: border-box;">当被老板批评时，我们会立即陷入愤怒或焦虑；当被女朋友责备时，我们会马上变得郁闷；当把一件事做砸了时，我们会立刻责备自己。</span></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">为什么？</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">因为这些反应都是我们的“自动导航”模式，是人类在最初进化时为了保护生存而做出的“出厂设置”。</span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">这种“自动导航”模式会让我们在受到外界刺激时，产生必然的快速反应，比如愤怒、比如内疚。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">这就像是开车时启动的自动导航系统，这时无需思考，也无需感受，自动导航系统说让往哪儿转，我们就会往哪儿转。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">就这样，我们完全被“自动导航系统”控制了。它让我们跟着情绪走，忽高忽低、忽左忽右，任由摆布。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">怎么办呢？</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong>这时，我们要关闭“自动导航模式”，进入“自我选择模式” - 不论向右还是向左，最终都得由我们说了算。</strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">如何做到呢？</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">做到的关键就是“觉知”。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong>觉知是与情绪相处的最关键一步，它说的是我们要从“自我”中抽身出来，成为一名旁观者，然后再来观察正发生在自己身上的情绪。</strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong><br></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong>这里有两种视角，一种是当事人，一种是旁观者。</strong>如果你一直处于“当事人”的视角中，你就是在“自动导航模式”里；但假如你能及时跳脱出来，抽离出来，从“当事人”视角进入“旁观者”视角，你就能够清晰的、客观的、毫无遗漏的看到正发生在“当事人”，也就是自己身上的一切。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">这时，你能<span style="box-sizing: border-box;">观察到自己情绪的微妙变化，观察到自己每一次不经意间升起的情绪是什么样的，观察到它是如何出现的，以及它究竟给你带来了什么样的影响。</span><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;"></span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong>而这种觉知最终会将我们带入“自我选择模式”。</strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">但凡是能够清晰觉知到的情绪状态，大多都能自然而然的消失。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; margin: -20px 0%; box-sizing: border-box; transform: translate3d(20px, 0px, 0px);" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="border-width: 0px 0px 0px 3px;border-style: solid;padding: 10px;width: 100%;border-right-color: rgba(160, 158, 158, 0.43);border-left-color: rgba(160, 158, 158, 0.43);display: inline-block;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="text-align: left;box-sizing: border-box;transform: translate3d(-13px, 0px, 0px);" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="padding: 0px 16px;text-align: justify;color: rgb(125, 125, 125);line-height: 1.8;letter-spacing: 1.3px;font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">比如：我天生急脾气，拿到一项工作，就想立刻完成，如果不能马上完成就会着急，对待团队也常常如此。</strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">这就是一种情绪特征（比情绪状态更稳定和持久的特征），好在因为这几年的刻意训练，我的觉知力比一般人要强很多。</strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">所以，现在每次着急的时候，大多数我都能意识到。而当意识到的时候，我这种着急的情绪和状态就会慢慢地消失。</strong></p></section></section></section></section><section style="font-size: 15px; padding: 0px 16px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); line-height: 2; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 11px; margin: 5px 0%; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="border-width: 0px 0px 1px;border-style: solid;padding: 0px 16px;font-size: 15px;border-bottom-color: rgb(201, 199, 199);box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 18px; padding: 0px 16px; text-align: center; color: rgb(178, 177, 177); line-height: 1.2; letter-spacing: 1.5px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;">— <span style="font-size: 32px;box-sizing: border-box;"><em style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">6</strong></span></em><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"></strong></span></span><span style="font-size: 22px;color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"></strong></span>—</p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 15px; padding: 0px 16px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); line-height: 2; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">觉知之后，如果你发现自己的情绪虽然变弱了，但依然没有消失，你就需要做出进一步的干预。关于情绪有非常多值得一讲的内容，但因篇幅有限，这里就讲一个最容易做到的：ABC的理性情绪行为疗法。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">什么是ABC的理性情绪行为疗法？</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">比如：</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; margin: -20px 0%; box-sizing: border-box; transform: translate3d(20px, 0px, 0px);" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="border-width: 0px 0px 0px 3px;border-style: solid;padding: 10px;width: 100%;border-right-color: rgba(160, 158, 158, 0.43);border-left-color: rgba(160, 158, 158, 0.43);display: inline-block;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="text-align: left;box-sizing: border-box;transform: translate3d(-13px, 0px, 0px);" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="padding: 0px 16px;text-align: justify;color: rgb(125, 125, 125);line-height: 1.8;letter-spacing: 1.3px;font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">早上你在高速上堵车堵了一个半小时，导致你没法给公司会议做准备，你特别生气地抱怨说，“我这一天都被堵车给毁了！”</strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">因为堵车耽误了会议这件事，让你这一整天都陷入了十分差劲的心情里。</strong></p></section></section></section></section><section style="font-size: 15px; padding: 0px 16px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); line-height: 2; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 15px; padding: 0px 16px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); line-height: 2; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">这里，A代表的是堵车一个半小时这件事。B代表的是你对堵车这件事的看法，也就是“我这一天都被毁了”。C代表的是由此而来的你的情绪 - 生气以及十分差劲的情绪。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">这就是A - B - C的过程。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">我们总是天真的以为，自己的不良情绪和极端反应是由A（也就是外界的人或事）直接导致的。换句话说，在我们心里，一直都有这样一个错误假设：<strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">只要外界发生了这样的事或是遇到了这样的人，我就一定会产生......的情绪。</span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">但其实，让你情绪差劲（C）的原因并不是堵车（A），而是你对堵车这件事以及它带来的影响的看法（B）。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">所以，即使是面对同一件事（A），如果你对它的看法（B）能够变化，你最终的情绪（C）也会有所不同。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">对于堵车<span style="background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-family: mp-quote, -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, " helvetica="" neue",="" "pingfang="" sc",="" "hiragino="" sans="" gb",="" "microsoft="" yahei="" ui",="" yahei",="" arial,="" sans-serif;="" letter-spacing:="" 1.3px;"="">这件</span>事，假如你是这样想的：堵车是很影响心情，但如果将它看做一种常态，就不会那么生气了，至少不会因此“毁了一天”。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">而当你的情绪不再受影响后，你也就能聚焦解决开会这件事了。</p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">这就是ABC的情绪原理。</p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; text-align: center; margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="width: 92%;height: auto;line-height: 0;vertical-align: middle;display: inline-block;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;"></section></section><section style="font-size: 15px; padding: 0px 16px; color: rgb(89, 89, 89); line-height: 2; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;box-sizing: border-box;"></strong><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;">可见，你的情绪（C）并不是由事件或人（A）直接导致，而是由你对这件事的看法（B）所导致。当你对一件事或一个人有不同认识时，你对这件事或这个人的看法就会变化，从而影响到你的感受和行为，以及一系列的决策和选择。</span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;">所以，在你无法改变事和人的时候，改变你自己的看法吧！</span></strong></p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 11px; margin: 5px 0%; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section style="border-width: 0px 0px 1px;border-style: solid;padding: 0px 16px;font-size: 15px;border-bottom-color: rgb(201, 199, 199);box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 18px; padding: 0px 16px; color: rgb(162, 34, 34); line-height: 2; letter-spacing: 1.6px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">最后的话<br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></strong></p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 15px; padding: 0px 16px; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); line-height: 2; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">情绪是个大话题，可以谈的内容非常多。但不论谈什么，<strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box;">最重要的是讲出来的东西要真的有用，能够落地并看到效果。</span></strong></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;">这就是我写这篇文章的初衷，希望对你和你身边的人都有用。<strong style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(239, 84, 17);box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="letter-spacing: 1.3px;box-sizing: border-box;"> </strong></span></strong></p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 15px; text-align: center; color: rgb(183, 7, 7); box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px;padding: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="box-sizing: border-box;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">- END -</strong></span><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></strong></p></section><section style="font-size: 15px; padding: 0px 16px; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); line-height: 2; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"></p></section><section style="font-size: 14px; padding: 0px 16px; color: rgb(135, 135, 135); line-height: 1.8; letter-spacing: 1.3px; box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><p style="margin: 0px; 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