最令人讨厌的四种说话方式，99%的人都没有意识到
<div class="wx_rich_media_content" id="jsWxContainer"><p style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; text-align: center; visibility: visible; line-height: normal;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;outline: 0px;visibility: visible !important;width: 100%;height: auto;'></span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; visibility: visible; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; visibility: visible; letter-spacing: 1px;'>在一期综艺节目中，歌手姚政谈到一段往事。</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; visibility: visible; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; visibility: visible; letter-spacing: 1px;'>在他落魄送外卖的时候，一次送餐途中碰见何老师，由于那时身份悬殊，他不敢跟何老师打招呼。</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; visibility: visible; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; visibility: visible; letter-spacing: 1px;'>没想到，何老师竟然主动和他聊天，</span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>甚至最后还掏出手机添加他为好友。</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; visibility: visible; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; visibility: visible; letter-spacing: 1px;'>一旁的嘉宾感叹道：</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; visibility: visible; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; visibility: visible; letter-spacing: 1px;'></span><span style='color: rgb(0, 0, 0); letter-spacing: 1px;'>“何老师永远会给你最舒服的温度。</span><span style='color: rgb(0, 0, 0); letter-spacing: 1px;'>”</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; visibility: visible; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); visibility: visible; letter-spacing: 1px;'>诚然，高情商的人说话做事，都懂得给人留一份体面，让人感到如沐春风。</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; visibility: visible; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; visibility: visible; letter-spacing: 1px;'>反观低情商的人，总是以自我为中心，忽略他人感受，让人避之不及。</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; visibility: visible; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; visibility: visible; letter-spacing: 1px;'>而判断一个人情商的高低，往往就藏在为人处世的细节里。</span><span style='font-size: var(--articleFontsize);letter-spacing: 0.034em;'></span></p><section style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; text-align: center; visibility: visible; line-height: normal;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;outline: 0px;visibility: visible !important;width: 100%;height: auto;'></span></section><section style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; text-align: center; visibility: visible; line-height: normal;'><span style='outline: 0px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);visibility: visible;letter-spacing: 1px;'><strong style='outline: 0px;visibility: visible;'>不把口无遮拦，当成直率</strong></span><span style='font-size: var(--articleFontsize);letter-spacing: 0.034em;text-align: justify;'></span></section><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>网上曾有个话题：</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'></span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>“没教养”的行为都有哪些？</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>其中一个高赞回答是：</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'></span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>“有一种没教养，是总拿自己的口无遮拦，当作伤害别人的借口。</span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>”</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>戴尔·卡耐基也曾说：</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'></span><span style='color: rgb(123, 12, 0); letter-spacing: 1px;'>在你过去的生活中，你伤害过谁，早已忘记了。可是被你伤害的那个人，却永远不会忘记你。</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>与人交往，口无遮拦不是耿直，轻重不分更不是坦率。</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>说话掌握分寸，才能做到</span><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);'>初见相欢，再见不厌。</span><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'><strong style='outline: 0px;'><span style='outline: 0px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);'></span></strong></span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>作家李尚龙在访谈中提及一段往事：</span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>他曾经有一个说话“直率”的朋友。</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>聚会时，她看到衣着朴素的李尚龙，总是会忍不住地大声说道：</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'></span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>“你的衣服像捡破烂的，不知道的以为是劳改犯。</span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>”</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>不仅如此，当李尚龙身材发福，她也会嘲讽不分场合地取笑：</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'></span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>“你现在越来越胖了，再过一段时间是不是不会走路了？</span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>”</span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'></span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>有一次，李尚龙把写好的剧本给她，想听听她的意见，没想到她竟直截了当地说道：</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'></span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>“不怎么样，我看了一集就没兴趣了。</span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>”</span><span style='font-size: var(--articleFontsize);letter-spacing: 0.034em;'></span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>轻飘飘一句句话，便让李尚龙心情跌到了谷底。</span><span style='text-align: center;font-size: var(--articleFontsize);letter-spacing: 0.034em;'></span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>虽然这个朋友每次都会为自己的“直率”行为道歉。</span></p><section style='text-align: center;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;width: 100%;height: auto;'></span></section><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>但李尚龙受不了她的过度坦率，还是渐渐疏远了她。</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>古人云：</span><span style='color: rgb(0, 0, 0); letter-spacing: 1px;'>舌上有龙泉，杀人不见血。</span><span style='color: rgb(0, 0, 0); letter-spacing: 1px;'></span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>寥寥数语，可以让人如沐春风，也能伤人于无形。</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>说话之前，三思而言，别让自己的刀子嘴，成为伤害感情的武器。</span><span style='font-size: var(--articleFontsize);letter-spacing: 0.034em;'></span></p><section style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; text-align: center; line-height: normal;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;outline: 0px;visibility: visible !important;width: 100%;height: auto;'></span></section><section style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; text-align: center; line-height: normal;'><span style='outline: 0px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);letter-spacing: 1px;'><strong style='outline: 0px;'>不把指手画脚，当成热心</strong></span><span style='font-size: var(--articleFontsize);letter-spacing: 0.034em;text-align: justify;'></span></section><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>《我要做人生的甲方》中讲到：</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'></span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>谁都有选择自己人生的权利，我们不了解别人，不知道人家经历了什么，没资格指手画脚。</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); letter-spacing: 1px;'>人生在世，我们做不到事事都和别人感同身受，却可以做到尊重和包容。</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>在生活中，我们总是会听到这样的话：</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'></span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>“已经开放三胎政策了，你们得抓紧了。</span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>”</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>“多少人挤破头进不去的国企，你还辞职，年轻人做事就是冲动。”</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>“毕业了就该去大城市闯荡，窝在家里有什么出息。”</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>这些人自以为热心肠，以过来人的口吻对你指手画脚，美名其曰：</span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>为你好。</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>殊不知，这种越界“为你好”，只会让人徒增烦恼。</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>知乎上，有网友发了这样一则帖子：</span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>由于老家装修，姨妈一家暂时住进了他家。</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>但是他坦言，很反感姨妈在家里的这种做法。</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>网友的妈妈下班后，着急忙慌地做饭，但姨妈不仅不帮忙，还总是指手画脚。</span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'></span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>“哎呀，味精吃多了会致癌”；</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>“排骨汤不要加盐，要的就是原汁原味”；</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>“上个厕所也要开灯，很费电”……</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>姨妈的行为引起了网友一家的反感，</span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>房刚建好，就立马将姨妈送回老家。</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='color: rgb(0, 0, 0);'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>有句话说得好，没有穿过别人的鞋，永远不知道别人的路怎么走。</span></span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>不理解别人的做法，不要指手画脚；</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>不了解别人的生活，不要过度干涉。</span></p><section style='text-align: center;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;width: 100%;height: auto;'></span></section><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>真正的聪明人，从不对别人指手画脚。</span><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'></span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>因为他们懂得，与其指点别人的江山，不如书写自己的精彩。</span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'></span></p><section style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; text-align: center; line-height: normal;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;outline: 0px;visibility: visible !important;width: 100%;height: auto;'></span></section><section style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; text-align: center; line-height: normal;'><span style='outline: 0px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);letter-spacing: 1px;'><strong style='outline: 0px;'>不把故意抬杠，当成善辩</strong></span><span style='font-size: var(--articleFontsize);letter-spacing: 0.034em;text-align: justify;'></span></section><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='color: rgb(0, 0, 0);'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>生活中有些人，在你说话的时候，总爱唱反调，网络用语称之为：</span></span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='color: rgb(0, 0, 0);'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'></span></span><strong style='letter-spacing: 0.578px;font-size: var(--articleFontsize);outline: 0px;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(123, 12, 0);'>杠精。</span></strong></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>作家王蒙笔下的《雄辩症》，就是一个关于“杠精”的故事：</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'></span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>一位医生门诊中接触了一位雄辩症病人。</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>医生说：“请坐。”</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>病人说：“为什么要坐下呢？难道你要剥夺我的座位权吗？”</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>医生无可奈何，倒了一杯水，说：“请喝水。”</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>病人又说：“不是所有的水都能喝。你如果在水里掺上氰化钾，这水就绝对不能喝。”</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>医生说：</span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>“我并没有放毒药，你放心。</span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>”</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>病人说：</span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>“我没说你放毒药，而你污蔑我，你这才是放了比毒药还毒的毒药。</span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>”</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>医生毫无办法说：</span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>“你走吧。</span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>”</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>病人说：</span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>“这里是不是公安机关，你无权命令我走。</span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>”</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>乍一听，让人忍俊不禁。</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>可细细想来，生活中，我们也遇到过类似的场景：</span><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>你说抽烟有害健康。</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px;'>他会反驳你：</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='letter-spacing: 1px; outline: 0px;'></span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>“净胡说，我爷爷抽了一辈子烟，照样活到85岁。</span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>”</span><span style='font-size: var(--articleFontsize);letter-spacing: 0.034em;text-align: center;'></span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>你说年轻就该奋斗。</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'></span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>他会嘲讽你：</span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>“没有背景再多努力也是徒劳。</span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>”</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>你称赞食堂的西红柿炒鸡蛋很好吃。他会挖苦你：</span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>“那是因为你没吃过什么好东西。</span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>”</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>蔡康永说过：</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'></span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(123, 12, 0);'>最懂说话之道的人，常常会在交谈中把无谓的胜利让给对方，他们深知认输的意义。</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>没有人喜欢被反驳。</span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>一味地在言语上追求输赢，只会败光了人缘，也疏远了关系。</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>三毛说：</span><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>从容不迫的举止，比起咄咄逼人的态度，更能令人折服。</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);'>做人，千万别因抬杠，丢了脸面，也丢了朋友。</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;outline: 0px;visibility: visible !important;width: 100%;height: auto;'></span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);letter-spacing: 1px;'><strong style='outline: 0px;'>不把尖酸刻薄，当成幽默</strong></span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>知乎上有人提问：</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'></span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>“分寸感是什么？</span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>”</span></p><section style='text-align: center;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;'><span class="wxart_image" wx-style='display:inline-block;width: 100%;height: auto;'></span></section><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>有个高赞回答这样说：</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'></span><span style='color: rgb(123, 12, 0); letter-spacing: 1px;'>“该说的说，不该说的别说，更别乱开玩笑。”</span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'></span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>的确，有些玩笑，我们以为无伤大雅，殊不知，对方早已心生波澜。</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>法国作家朗斯身高不足一米六。</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>有一次，他约了一位身材高挑的女孩在餐厅吃饭，恰巧碰到朋友夏朗德。</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>夏朗德见此，便取笑说：</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'></span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>“你们俩在一起真有趣，就像一对母子。</span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>”</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>气氛瞬间变得非常尴尬，可夏朗德却继续说：</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'></span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>“你小子真有福气，明明长得像矮冬瓜，却能交往上这么高挑的女孩，哈哈……”</span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'></span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>女孩听后非常不悦，饭没吃就起身离开了。</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>朗斯也忍无可忍，愤怒地揍了夏朗德一顿。</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>夏朗德无辜地说：</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'></span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>“我以为你不在意。</span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>”</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>他恼怒地说：</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'></span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>“你让我在这么重要的场合丢脸，我怎么能不在乎。</span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>”</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>此后，他便疏远了夏朗德。</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>张皓宸说过：</span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);'>有些人开玩笑，你觉得不舒服，说明这根本不是玩笑，而是嘲讽。</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>即便关系再好，彼此间也应该保留分寸感。</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>以幽默为由，戳别人的痛点，在他们的伤疤上撒盐，只会让感情渐行渐远。</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>生活中，你是否有遇到以下场景：</span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>当你精心打扮了半天，拍了张美美的照片发朋友时。</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>有人评论说：</span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>“瞧瞧你这肚子，不知道的人以为怀孕几个月呢？”</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>当你工作忙，为了应付肚子点外卖时，</span><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>你同事说：</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'></span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>“怎么一点营养也没有，不知道的以为猪食呢”</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>当你相亲被拒，和朋友诉苦时，</span><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>你朋友说：</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'></span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>“不怪人家看不上你，要不是因为头发，我都以为你是个男的哈哈哈”</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);'>其实，好的关系，源于彼此尊重，不乱开玩笑，让彼此舒服，关系才会更长久。</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em; text-align: center;'><span style='outline: 0px;font-size: 18px;'><strong style='outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", "PingFang SC", "Hiragino Sans GB", "Microsoft YaHei UI", "Microsoft YaHei", Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; color: rgb(123, 12, 0);'><span style='outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 1px;'>▼</span></strong></span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0);'>蔡康永曾说：</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><strong><span style='color: rgb(123, 12, 0);'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'></span><span style='letter-spacing: 1px;'>你说什么样的话，你就是什么样的人。</span></span></strong><span style='color: rgb(0, 0, 0); letter-spacing: 1px;'></span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>深以为然，说话的分寸，往往就是做人的分寸。</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>人生在世，出言有尺，嬉闹有度。</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>那么在社交中，才会让别人相处不累，久处不厌。</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>漫漫余生，愿你我言有所规，行有所止。</span></p><p style='margin: 32px 8px; letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; line-height: 1.75em;'><span style='outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 1px;'>去往之地皆为热土，所遇之人，皆为良友。</span></p><hr style='letter-spacing: 0.578px; outline: 0px; border-style: solid; border-right-width: 0px; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-left-width: 0px; border-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.1); transform-origin: 0px 0px; transform: scale(1, 0.5);'><section style='margin-right: 8px; 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